6. Self-Compassion / Self-Kindness

Be kind to yourself.
Be affectionate to yourself.
Treat yourself with love.

I love myself unconditionally.

I read the following quote:
"You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire Universe, deserve your love and affection."
"Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives."

(This is the sixth of the most important lessons I have learned so far.)

5. Living from Center, not periphery

Live from your center, not your periphery.

I read the following in a book:

A person can live in two ways: she can live from her periphery or she can live from her center.

The moment you have a center, then you have a distance from yourself--you have a distance from your periphery.

The outside world can touch you only on the periphery.

So how to be centered in oneself? Witnessing is the technique.

If you move inward from the surface you go to the center--suddenly, the surface may still be disturbed but you are not disturbed.

So the whole thing is not to fight on the surface, but rather slip into the center.

A whole perception is needed, and that is possible only from the center--because from the center you can look all around in all dimensions, all directions, at the whole periphery of your being.

(This is the fifth of the most important lessons I have learned so far.)

4. Self-Worth

Value yourself.
Know and understand your value, your worth.

I am more valuable than the most precious diamond.
I am more valuable than entire money of the world combined.

I read this quote:
"Your worth is found in God, not the opinions of others."

(This is the fourth of the most important lessons I have learned so far.)

3. Flexibility

All days are not the same.
Some days are sunny. Some days are stormy.
We still must go on.
How? By being flexible.

I read the following lines in a book:

"So what is the palm trees’ secret to staying in one piece? The answer is flexibility. They bend almost down to the ground at times, and it’s that very ability that allows them to remain unbroken."

(This is the third of the most important lessons I have learned so far.)

2. Consistency

It is so important to be consistent in the things that matter the most to you.
(This is the second of the most important lessons I have learned so far.)

1. Healthy Boundaries

It is so important to have healthy boundaries in relationships and work.
Your thoughts and emotions will help you in forming healthy boundaries.
You are worth it.
(This is one of the most important lessons I have learned so far.)

Maybe

Sometimes we have to experience how bad it can be, to appreciate how good it is.